How to be a Kindness  Role Model for Our Children

How to be a Kindness Role Model for Our Children

Feb 26, 2021

One Book at a Time

By Keira Pride, Head Librarian, Stratford School

“If you can be anything, be kind.”

As parents and educators, we need to make showing kindness a priority and provide the opportunities for our children to practice kindness. As such, we naturally embrace any opportunity to promote kindness – whether random or well-planned. It is in that spirit that we curated a selection of books promoting kindness and related qualities like thoughtfulness, generosity, and empathy. The character education lessons are wrapped in memorable stories about interesting characters, unusual partnerships (a snail and a whale!), and challenging situations -- often overcome with help from friends and their acts of kindness. The heroes of our stories – a Syrian ambulance driver, a track coach, an oak tree – are ordinary in most ways except in their capacity to promote kindness.

Our recommended stories also highlight the fact that qualities like empathy, courage, and self-knowledge are not fixed or finite in any of us – but rather learned (and renewable) resources. In life, as in these stories, even good people, challenged by circumstance or past action, are sometimes unkind and cowardly, are sometimes bystanders when they could have been upstanders. Yet with self-knowledge that comes from experience – and some productive struggle – we all have a nearly infinite capacity to build our empathy muscle and renew our reservoirs of courage.

The richly crafted stories we are recommending will provide children with hours of reading enjoyment and positive role models. Among the many books that celebrate kindness, here are our favorites:

Grades Kindergarten to Second

Love, Z written and illustrated by Jessie Sima

While out looking for adventure, a young robot named Z finds a message in a bottle signed “Love, Beatrice”. What is love? And who is Beatrice? Those two words are enough to pique Z’s curiosity. Unable to get an answer from the other robots, Z leaves to embark on an adventure to find Beatrice and learn about love. It is on this journey that he learns the powerful meaning of those four simple letters and discovers that what he has been seeking was closer than he realized.

The Snail and the Whale written by Julia Donaldson, illustrated by Axel Scheffler

This is the tale of a tiny snail who dreams to see the world, so she hitches a ride on a humpback whale. Children will love the vibrant art of their journey together past icebergs, jungles, and caves. The story provides the suggestion that brilliant friendships do not necessarily have to be between two similar individuals. The two characters are brought together, and help each other with their differences, not similarities.

Grades 3 to 4

The Cat Man of Aleppo written by Irene Latham and Karim Shamsi-Basha, illustrated by Yuko Shimizu

This is the story about a kindhearted ambulance driver from Syria named Alaa. Alaa lives in the city of Aleppo and he loves everything about his city from the vibrant bazaars to the kind, gentle people. One day, a terrible thing happened and many people had to flee Aleppo. Alaa decided to stay and look after the injured people, abandoned cats, and other animals. His love and kindness soon spread and today he is known worldwide as the Cat man of Aleppo.

Smile written and illustrated by Raina Telgemeier

The first in a series of insightful graphic novels about the trials and tribulations of childhood relationships. When Raina trips and smashes her two front teeth, she embarks on a long, embarrassing journey of dental treatments. Fitting in at school is hard enough, but this sweet, funny book will encourage kids to believe they can get through troubled times with the help of their true friends and a little bit of kindness.

Grades 5 to 8

Wishtree written by Katherine Applegate

This is a beautiful and touching story about nature and friendship. Red, an old oak tree, watches over the neighborhood and the many animals that live in its branches. For decades, the tree has been known as the “wishtree,” where each year people tie their wishes written on strips of cloth, giving Red a special place in the community. One day a new family moves in and they aren’t exactly welcomed with open arms. Red does what any wise, kind old tree would do, and decides to intervene.

Ghost written by Jason Reynolds

Castle “Ghost” Crenshaw is on his way to becoming a track star, but can he run fast enough to put his past behind? This book is full of complicated characters, difficult decisions, and opportunities to ask, “What is the right thing to do when you’re being bullied?” Ghost perfectly depicts the challenges kids face on and off the field. Ghost shows them how to face those challenges in an approachable way, and features diverse characters with whom kids can directly relate.

In a world that feels increasingly divisive, being kind makes us feel good and motivates us to perform more acts of kindness. When we role-model kindness and kindness fundamentals like empathy and generosity in ourselves, kids can see them in action and be inspired to practice them as well. And in turn, by teaching our children the importance of compassion and empathy, we can all help build a kinder, more accepting future for everyone.

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